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Sex Show + a comment and a link

16 Nov

I suppose I should wait just a bit longer before I post this to truly protect the innocent err not-so-innocent’s well undecided identity.  A lot of how I feel is dependent on their response/rebuttle to the slew of bad comments and those that have supported the mission of the blog, including that particular entry in it.  The whole incident–to be outlined in a moment–has made me think:  How much it it OK to complain about celebrities/politicians/bloggers?  After all, we don’t ACTUALLY know them.  I only know what they put out there for the public to see.  If they put something out in public at all is it to be commended, no matter how disagreeable or UN-P.C.?  Or by putting a piece of themselves out there–are they inherently responsible for it?

I ask, because a lot of people seem to think they should not be accountable for things they do in their personal lives, even though they are economically dependant on fans/voters.  And especially, especially on the internet.  Yes, any idiot can post any disgusting thing they please–but does that mean, I as a consumer/reader, have to simply ignore repulsive, icky things they may do or say?  After all, without MY support where would these people be in the first place?  They would just be another jerk with an opinion. . .  It should go both ways, right???

I think people need to own up to what they put out there.  Michael Jackson’s pedophilia was repulsive, and I felt it MY business not to support the man (however talented) because I found his personal morals reprehensible.  The politicians cheating/robbing/raping?  Also deserve much scrutiny.  They are supposed to be role-models.  If they fail on that front, even if they do a good job career-wise, it should at the very least be analyzed.  A sort of cost/benefit type of thing.  Scummy ethics have a way of drizzling over into multiple aspects of people’s lives, after all.  But is this me on a high horse?  Do I have a right to question/critisize public figures just because I partake in their product?

The thing that led me to think about these things are one of my staple bloggers.  I know I don’t REALLY know this person.  I have no idea what makes them tick or what their karma may be, but my perspective was shattered based on one post.  It really shattered my whole idea of what they stood for and what kind of person I was reading about every day.  It made me not like them very well–and that made me extremely sad.  They had become a fixture of my morning (or afternoon, or boredom) routine.  And now?

Is ignorance an excuse? this post I’m referring to, which I would normally credit, but won’t in this disparaging post, talked of supporting a Bankok Sex Show. Why anyone would want to view a sex show, strip club, or other sex industry performance is beyond me. The way the blogger was grossed out by the sex industry in Thailand, then turned around and supported it is gross.  And how anyone can mindfully ignore the struggle of those women is really ugly. This blogger NEVER mentioned the women.  There was mention of how the show was disgusting, but in a self-preservation way.  And there was regret at having put oneself in a perilous position where the strippers and pims tried to hustle the group for more money.  No regret for GOING to said show in the first place though.  And no mention about WHY the strippers might have to be there or need that money. . .  Upon reading the entry, I had a sort of knee-jerk wave of disgust and disdain. But really, can North Americans be judged harshly? After all, we see “harmless” exploitation of women all the time. Without thoughtful analysis, we don’t even recognize it as exploitation most times. But does naivety venerate us from responsibility?

Let me think of issues I care less about.  OK, the fact the black people in Africa are marginalized by whites.  It’s terrible.  But I don’t really think about it all that much.  And I wouldn’t take the time to investigate how I might be unknowingly supporting it.  And that could lead to a bad decision that ultimately makes me look like a mofo and hurts other people.    It’s not like I mindfully take part in the marginalization of that population, but I don’t care enough to delve into the problem deepr.  I guess I can see how a snafu abroad could happen.  But I think after seeing the exploited people face to face I might feel sorry.  For them.  Not any trouble I put my life (or pocketbook) in.  But does that makes it different?

I don’t know.  I guess there is no easy answer.  Education and awareness and taking responsibility for one’s own actions are crucial though.  I know that.  And to not put anything out in the public sphere that you might be ashamed of.  If you believe in what you’re doing, then more power to you–live your life and to hell with the haters.  But if your product is something you are unsure of or not in support of or not YOU–then you deserve all the criticism that is coming to you.


Just as an aside:  I’m not sure how age is all that relevant.  These girls and/or women are disenfranchised and socially/economically forced into this ugly profession where they must commit degrading, harmful acts to (ironically) survive.  And too many locals/tourists, men/women, etc. . . knowingly or unknowingly support this so there is money to be made from their plight.  I think children, or not, this is a pretty sad affair that should be delved into by those more privileged.  It wouldn’t hurt everyone to try to learn about the sex industry and trafficking (of all ages)  that often go hand in hand with one another–AND what to do about it.  Here are some terrifying stats about human trafficking on my own blog: