I know IVF in Kansas was for infertile couples who desperately wanted a child. As an egg donor in the Midwest, I felt my contribution was part altruistic, part financial. The parents on the waiting list seemed to really want a healthy child. I never got the vibe that people wanted a model-genius or anything like that. At most, I knew parents wanted a donor that resembled them–probably so the parents could sort of see what their genes looked liked together and also so their family would look more cohesive.
Then, when you get to California and even Seattle, IVF is more a way to genetically engineer a beautiful, smart, child. A lot of the questions on the surveys regarded test scores and accomplishments, rather than just the health background I had in Kansas City. And no one in Seattle ever picked me as a donor. Maybe because the West coat market is more saturated with women wanting to donate, but also, I suspect, because I didn’t Ace the SAT or get signed by Ford. It creeped me out that parents are picking traits they want in a child and trying to exclude different or unique characteristics.
It’s the variability in people that makes us special–however problematic for society.
Plus, that was some of the best (easiest) money I’ve made in my life. Most definitely the easiest. Even with the drugs, needles, and 2.5 hour (one way) driving time. It honestly didn’t inconvenience me very much at all–especially when they handed me those big checks after surgery 🙂 I could certainly use that kind of income now! Except, I’m running out of time. You can only be an egg donor until age 30. I have about one year to get picked. Listen up, infertile people in Seattle–pick my profile, hurry! *sigh* I need to go back to the Bible Belt so I can utilize my last 2 donations (you get 6 in a lifetime). I should see if MT, ID, or Eastern WA have an IVF program. . .