Don’t Ever Say a Mean Thing to a Pregnant Woman (Says Patriarchal Society)

19 Nov

This whole conversation started because on Karlie’s baby bump video where she says, “Good morning baby” I commented, “nope.”  It was a (softly) negative Twitter comment in a sea of “congratulations,” “you will be a great mom,” and “you’re glowing.”    

Honestly, I take offense that all the comments were reverential.  Considering the negativity I see on EVERY SINGLE OTHER KK post, and Twitter as a whole.  It’s backward.  And here’s why:

So is it OK if I say Lady Gaga copies Madonna’s career?  Because we don’t know she’s pregnant?

How about Jared Ku$hner.  Can I say he’s corrupt?  Because he’s a man, and can’t get pregnant?

And would it have been OK to say something negative to Karlie 6 months ago?  Because she probably wasn’t pregnant then?

Socially chastising me for “being proud of saying something negative to a pregnant woman” is so predictable.  You’re making a judgement call.  And why?  Of course, socially-imposed “rules” are held up by individuals in society.  But, is this a good rule?  Why is it a thing?  

Is my comment going to cause Karlie’s baby harm?  I don’t want to put anything specific, because just-in-case.  But you get my point, that it’s probably unlikely that reading one Twitter comment is going to hurt either mom or baby.  Are women more “delicate” when they’re pregnant?  Women (for Millennia) doing agriculture and having a child right in the field then continuing on with work, prove–no.  And nutritionally, it’s a myth that pregnancy is the most challenging time.  Lactation, then the growth stage are harder on the body [Animal Science, major here!].  

Does pregnancy earn a woman more respect?  I think so, in our society (hence the social stigma), but I am a hard disagree that it should be this way.  A woman should be treated better, because she’s carrying a child?  But not at other times in her life.  Is pregnancy the most important job or function a woman ever will have?  Because a child is involved, women are more revered than normal?  To me, the fact I have to ask these questions, and the fact the answers are probably all yes, (in our culture) is wrong.

To me, that sounds more fucked up than treating a woman like a human, even if she’s carrying a child.  Don’t misinterpret my words–I am NOT suggesting people abuse pregnant women in any way, shape, or form.  But is it right to treat her like porcelain?  Nope.

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