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Everyone Agrees: LOVE IS A COWBOY LIKE ME

13 Nov

As you know Taylor has a song called Cowboy Like Me and it is thought in Gaylor circles to be talking about identifying another queer person and/or bearding.  I fully think Taylor is writing about seeing Joe (Mastermind) in this song.  But I think Kelsea’s album, released 2 years later, is a response or call back to Taylor’s song.

Kelsea lyrics are pink

Taylor lyrics are lavender

Rough around the edges, stops you in your tracks

Wrecks you in the worst way when it looks like that

Knocks you off the horse but it keeps you comin’ back

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

And the tennis court was covered up

With some tent-like thing

And you asked me to dance

But I said, “Dancing is a dangerous game”

You can wrap your arms around it, but you can’t make it stay

Oh, I thought

This is gonna be one of those things

Now I know

I’m never gonna love again

All the bad ones say they’re the good and all the good ones ride way

I’ve got some tricks up my sleeve

Takes one to know one

You’re a cowboy like me

A little El Dorado and a little bit John Wayne

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

Never wanted love

Just a fancy car

Makes your heart feel like wild horses in your chest

Trying to catch, it’s like tryna tame a wild, wild west

And when I’m with him, it’s like ropin’ the wind

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

Now I’m waiting by the phone

Like I’m sitting in an airport bar

You had some tricks up your sleeve

Take you dancin’ in that neon, leave you cryin’ in it too

Takes one to know one

You’re a cowboy like me

Perched in the dark

Telling all the rich folks anything they wanna hear

Like it could be love

I could be the way forward

Only if they pay for it

You’re a bandit like me

Yeah, gets ya drunk like whiskеy and higher than the moon

Eyes full of stars

Hustling for the good life

Never thought I’d meet you here

So when you gеt that feelin’, hold on to your boots

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

It could be love

We could be the way forward

And I know I’ll pay for it

You’re a cowboy like me

It makes your heart feel like wild horses in your chest

Trying to catch, it’s like tryna tame the wild, wild west

Perched in the dark

Telling all the rich folks anything they wanna hear

Like it could be love

I could be the way forward

Only if they pay for it

And when I’m with him, it’s like ropin’ the wind

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

You’re a bandit like me

Eyes full of stars

Hustling for the good life

Never thought I’d meet you here

It could be love

We could be the way forward

And I know I’ll pay for it

And the skeletons in both our closets

Plotted hard to mess this up

It’ll make you feel like ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

Or it’ll leave you blue, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

No matter what you do, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh

Yeah, love is a cowboy, mm-mm

And the old men that I’ve swindled

Really did believe I was the one

And the ladies lunching have their stories about

When you passed through town

But that was all before I locked it down

It makes your heart feel like wild horses in your chest

Trying to catch, it’s like tryna tame the wild, wild west

Now you hang from my lips

Like the Gardens of Babylon

With your boots beneath my bed

Kelsea didn’t hang on to her boots hard enough.

It’s reckless and rugged, it’s sweet and it’s stubborn

Love is a cowboy, mm-mm

Forever is the sweetest con

I’ve had some tricks up my sleeve

Takes one to know one

You’re a cowboy like me

And I’m never gonna love again

I’m never gonna love again

Yeah, and when I’m with him, it’s like ropin’ the wind

Love is a cowboy

Mm, mm, oh, oh

I’m never gonna love again

Glitch: Is it for Kaylor or KelSwift?

13 Nov

Let’s read the song through two lenses:  One under the assumption Taylor is talking to/about Karlie.  The second, that Taylor is addressing Kelsea Ballerini.

We were supposed to be just friends

Doesn’t it seem like Taylor and team might want to break the boy-crazy narrative by pushing friendships (with women)?  Sure, her meeting Karlie could have been organic.  But also her team could have hired a lot of models to compose “The squad” to show female friendships…

You don’t live in my part of town, but maybe I’ll see you out some weekend

We could be talking about a different NYC neighborhood (in the case of Karlie).

Or Nashville.  When Taylor was mostly on the coasts.

Depending on what kind of mood and situation-ship I’m in

And what’s in my system

These lines show that Taylor is dismissive about seeing this person or not.  She says maybe she’ll see them out.  Depending on her mood, what she’s imbibing, and who else is in her life.  This is not really Kaylor (I wrote 5 albums about loving you and longing for you) vibes.  Though I guess it could be during the card sharks, playing games point in time.

In Kelsea’s song Weather, however,  I think it talks about being the recipient of similar capricious feelings:

I think there’s been a glitch

Five seconds later, I’m fastening myself to you with a stitch

And I’m not even sorry

But here are just 5 examples (there’s too many to include that would totally waylay this post) where Taylor DOES care a lot if Karlie leaves her life:

Cornelia Street

Death by a Thousand Cuts

Illicit Affairs

The entirety of Evermore (song), the entirety of Hoax.

Also, here’s just 5 (there’s tons more) Kaylor songs with a tinge of regret (Taylor IS sorry):

Afterglow

Betty

This is me Trying

Coney Island

Question…  

You see Kaylor is NOT casual and cavalier (like this song) at.  All.  

But then there’s some songs from Kelsea that are a bit more casual:

I can’t help myself

The Little Things

Nights are so starry, blood moonlit

A very Kaylor mention of “stars” in Taylor’s discography is in Cardigan:

But Taylor mentions stars in a less romantic way in both Dorthea and Cowboy Like Me:

Kelsea’s song I Guess They Call It Fallin’ mentions both stars and the moon:

Again in Heartfirst

And again in Universe

And a fourth time in Love is a Cowboy

It seems like Kelsea Ballerini fell totally in love, but Taylor is just having a fling/hook-up.

It must be counterfeit

Is something about Kaylor intended to deceive or defraud?  

Deceive the public/media-we’re just friends. Or deceive Jo$h?

Is Kaylor an imitation of something else?  

Her mirror “relationship” with Joe?

What about Kelsea?

Is something intended to deceive or defraud?  

Does Taylor get involved with Kelsea to deceive herself?  As a distraction from pain, and with the intent to move on and feel better?  But she just can’t?

Is KelSwift an imitation of something else?  

Kaylor love.  This relationship with Kelsea is meant to ease the heartbreak and loss of Karlie, but Taylor doesn’t feel it as deeply.  She tries to imitate the love she felt with Karlie, but it just comes up short.  

I think there’s been a glitch

I was supposed to sweat you out

Taylor could be talking about when she got a crush on Karlie.  Maybe her, her parents, her team wanted Taylor to get over it.  The anxiety could apply here.  I wouldn’t think all the pain in the above definitions would be applicable to a fleeting crush, or hook-up though.

Applied to the Kaylor break-up and trying to get over Karlie by distracting herself with Kelsea, it fits better.  Taylor is painfully trying to work through the break-up.  She’s sad, anxious, having intense feelings, having to endure pain through 3-4 album cycles…  I think the lyric works better with a Kaylor ending than it does as a beginning.

In search of glorious happenings of happenstance on someone else’s playground

This line is a lot.  Let’s take it one word at a time to glean exactly what Taylor is trying to convey.

Glorious = Beauty but exponential, that evokes delighted and splendorous (I think I just made this word up, but you see what I’m getting at)  admiration.  So beauty on steroids that evokes glory in those who see it.

Kaylor friendship could be seen as a performance, with media and heteronormativity participating in the best friends narrative.  But that’s more external than the internal meaning I think this song means.

Happenings might be the, “if I see you, I’ll see you” tone of the song mentioned from the first line.  It’s a very indifferent attitude.   

Happenstance further substantiates the detached tone of Taylor in this song.  If it happens, it happens, if not-meh.

Let me make it known that I don’t really like equating women to property.  

Karlie is with Jo$h.

Kelsea was married to Morgan Evans.

Either way Taylor is playing on someone else’s playground.

All together:

Glorious = Beauty but exponential, that evokes delighted and splendorous (I think I just made this word up, but you see what I’m getting at)  admiration.  So beauty on steroids that evokes glory in those who see it.

Happenings = event or performance art.  Kaylor friendship could be seen as a performance, with media and heteronormativity participating in the best friends narrative.  But that’s more external than the internal meaning I think this song means.  Internally, Taylor could be performing love “fake it til you make it” on Kelsea trying to move on, but she just can’t force it to bet totally genuine.

Happenings might be the, “if I see you, I’ll see you” tone of the song mentioned from the first line.  It’s a very indifferent attitude.   

Happenstance further substantiates the detached tone of Taylor in this song.  If it happens, it happens, if not-meh.

Karlie is with Jo$h.  Kelsea was married to Morgan Evans.  Either way Taylor is playing on someone else’s playground.

The IN SEARCH OF is doing a lot of work here.  Taylor felt that awe for Karlie. She hungered for those fleeting secret moments with her.  But Paris and Illicit Affairs tells us it wasn’t just happenstance, Kaylor very intentionally planned their private moments.  That’s why I think Glitch is more of a KelSwift song.  Taylor is trying to recreate that Kaylor-magic-love feeling whenever she happens to see Kelsea. But Kelsea caught feelings.  Hard.  And divorced her husband, partially over this relationship with Taylor.  

But it’s been 2, 190 days of our love blackout

The system’s breaking down

I think there’s been a glitch

Five seconds later, I’m fastening myself to you with a stitch

And I’m not even sorry

Nights are so starry, blood moonlit

It must be counterfeit

I think there’s been a glitch

A brief interruption, a slight malfunction

In Bigger than the Whole Sky (purportedly about Taylor’s main love interest and the self she lost by not coming out and choosing a family with her) Taylor says it was more than just a short time.  In no way, did Taylor feel that Kaylor was just a affair/fling/flirtation.

But all of Kelsea’s songs talk about a person who is halfway in their relationship.  Very mercurial.  Fleeting.  Wishy-washy.  Hard to pin down.  Because Taylor only sees her thing with Kelsea is herself being temporarily broken.  That’s not romantic.  Taylor is saying she was broken so she got with Kelsea 

I’d go back to wanting dudes who give nothing

Is Taylor saying she would go back to these men (Sweet Nothing and Lavender Haze)?

Or is this advice Taylor is giving to the subject of the song? 

Suggesting Karlie go back to Jo$h (which Exile, Cardigan…  So many songs don’t want Karlie to pick the man). 

Or is Taylor suggesting Kelsesa forget her new epiphany that she loves women?  Since Taylor has firsthand experience of being a closeted country star.

I thought we had no chance

And that’s romance, let’s dance

Taylor wanted it to work with Karlie. Just in private, which Karlie couldn’t agree to in the long-term.

Here, I think Taylor is saying she didn’t really take KelSwift seriously.  She didn’t intend for them to be a long-term couple.  And that’s what she liked about it:  Short, fun, no strings attached.  Dancing is a dangerous thing–because Love is a Cowboy, when you’re with them you’re ropin’ the wind.

Glitch

Five seconds later, I’m fastening myself to you with a stitch

And I’m not even sorry

Nights are so starry, blood moonlit

It must be counterfeit

I think there’s been a glitch